• Use “diamond words” to resolve the temptations and tests in the relationship

Test Type Diagnostic Matrix

Test the motivation decoder
Value recognition type (45%):

“How many times have you been in a relationship?”

“How much do you get paid monthly?”

Boundary detection type (35%):

“What do you think of my girlfriend?”

“If I’m at the same time as your mother…”

Emotional solicitation (20%):

“Do you think I’m fat?”

“Isn’t it ugly for me to wear no makeup?”

▍ Diamond Speech Model
Three-layer structure analysis
Empathy layer (40%): Establish an emotional connection

“I understand why you’re asking”

“It’s really a question worth pondering”

Information layer (30%): Provide a modest response

“The past experience has made me more understanding…”

“The current income is enough to support me…”

Facilitator (30%): Shift the focus of the conversation

“But I’d love to know you…”

“Speaking of which, I remember you mentioned…”

▍ Classic problem cracking library
Value recognition type
Question: “How many times have you been in a relationship?” “
× Thunder Striker Answer: “3 times” (too direct)
× Stepping on thunder and replying: “I can’t remember” (seems frivolous)
✓ Diamond Talk:
“Having been through a few relationships has made me more aware of what kind of relationship I want (empathy). Now it’s more important to pay more attention to the growth fit (information) of two people. By the way, what does your ideal relationship look like? (Bootstrap)”

Boundary detection type
Question: “What do you think of my girlfriend?” “
× Thunder replies: “It’s pretty” (triggers jealousy)
× Stepping on thunder and answering: “Didn’t pay attention” (seems perfunctory)
✓ Diamond Talk:
“You have such a good relationship, which is enviable. She seems to be the kind of friend who is very righteous (information). How did you meet? (Bootstrap)”

Emotionally demanding
Question: “Am I fat?” “
× Stepping on thunder and answering: “Not fat” (perfunctory)
× Stepping on thunder and answering: “A little” (hurting)
✓ Diamond Talk:
“You’re always very demanding of yourself. A healthy and confident look is the most attractive (information). Why don’t you try the new yoga studio together? (Bootstrap)”

▍Actual combat drill room
Conversation treemap application
Scenario: What to do when asked about your income

Ask directly

Respond sincerely to → change the subject

Vague response → explain why

Knock on the side

Acknowledging the status quo → Presentation planning

Ask the other person → lead to sharing

Test the upgrade

Expressing discomfort → illustrating boundaries

Humor dissolves → rebuilds the atmosphere

▍Risk prevention and control system
Red flag identification
The repetition rate of the question > 3 times

The tone is aggressive

Accompanied by limb tension

Emergency evacuation plan
Scenario: When the test intensity is beyond the tolerance range
Three-step way to get out of trouble:

Pause the conversation: “We need to talk about this at another time”

Express feelings: “This kind of conversation makes me a little uncomfortable”

Rebuilding borders: “Hopefully we can get to know each other in an easier way”

▍ Reader self-test tool
“Test Sensitivity” Assessment Form

Accurately identify 80% of tentative questions □ yes □ no

There are more than 3 universal response templates □Yes □ No

Able to control emotions and not be irritated by problems □ Yes □ No

two “yes” indicates that you have basic response skills

“Speech Construction” practice card
Given the scenario:

The other person asked, “Will you always be good to me?” “
Please fill in:
Empathy layer:
Information Layer:
Boot Layer: _