- Use “micro-reaction decoding” to see through the real thoughts of TA
▍Interest assessment matrix
Interest Assessment Matrix
Note: The X-axis is the degree of initiative, and the Y-axis is the degree of openness, indicating the distribution of typical behaviors
Signal strength grading
High Interest Signal (8-10 points):
Lean forward > 15°
Pupil dilation> 20%
The interval between unconscious imitation movements < 8 seconds
Signals of medium interest (5-7 points):
Maintain standard social distancing
Frequency of eye contact 30%-50%
Occasionally adjust your posture towards the other person
Low interest signals (1-4 points):
Frequent viewing time (> 3 times/10 minutes)
The angle of reclining > 10°
The toes are constantly pointing to the exit
▍Micro reaction decoding system
Ocular signal bank
Positive Signs:
Increased blink frequency (+15%-30%)
Rapid brow lift (lasts 0.2-0.5 seconds)
Gaze time > 3 seconds
Negative Signals:
Frequent eye closure (>5 sec/min)
Eyes wander quickly
The pupil is markedly constricted
Gesture signal library
Open Signal:
The palms of the hands are naturally upward
Moderate gesture amplitude (30-60cm)
Unobstructed body movements
Defensive Signals:
Crossing arms is frequent
Cover your face with your hands
Organize your clothes frequently
▍Decoding of spatial relationships
Hall’s four distance applications
Intimate distance (0-45cm):
Applicable scenarios: private conversations, moments of comfort
Entry signal: The other party actively reduces the distance > 10cm
Personal distance (45-120cm):
Applicable scenarios: daily conversation, dating interaction
Safety test: Observe the other person’s reaction when handing the item
Social Distancing (1.2-3.6m):
Applicable scenarios: first meeting, business occasions
Breakthrough Tips: Look for natural approaches (e.g. checking content on your phone)
Public Distance (>3.6m):
Applicable scenarios: speeches, performances
Conversion strategy: Connecting through items (e.g. passing items)
▍ GUIDE TO THE APPLICATION OF THE TOUCH PRINCIPLE
Time:
3-5 minutes after the conversation atmosphere peaks
The other party took the initiative to approach 3 times in a row
Occasion:
Choose a semi-private space (e.g. café corner)
Avoid premature contact in formal settings
Urgency:
Used to express support or comfort
Use with language signals
Consent:
Observe the openness of the other person’s body
Use progressive contact (e.g., touching an object first)
Harmony:
Hold contact time<3 seconds (initial)
The force is controlled at 200-400 grams
▍Actual combat drill room
Scenario simulation exercises
Scenario 1: The other party frequently looks at their phone
Identifying signals: low interest
Solution: Start a topic change or end it at the right time
Scenario 2: The other party leans forward + focuses on his eyes
Identification signal: High interest
Response: Increase self-disclosure and advance relationships
Scenario 3: The opponent crosses his arms + toes and moves outward
Identifying Signals: Defensive Status
Coping plan: Adjust the atmosphere of the conversation to reduce the feeling of oppression
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