• Use “micro-reaction decoding” to see through the real thoughts of TA

▍Interest assessment matrix
Interest Assessment Matrix
Note: The X-axis is the degree of initiative, and the Y-axis is the degree of openness, indicating the distribution of typical behaviors

Signal strength grading
High Interest Signal (8-10 points):

Lean forward > 15°

Pupil dilation> 20%

The interval between unconscious imitation movements < 8 seconds

Signals of medium interest (5-7 points):

Maintain standard social distancing

Frequency of eye contact 30%-50%

Occasionally adjust your posture towards the other person

Low interest signals (1-4 points):

Frequent viewing time (> 3 times/10 minutes)

The angle of reclining > 10°

The toes are constantly pointing to the exit

▍Micro reaction decoding system
Ocular signal bank
Positive Signs:

Increased blink frequency (+15%-30%)

Rapid brow lift (lasts 0.2-0.5 seconds)

Gaze time > 3 seconds

Negative Signals:

Frequent eye closure (>5 sec/min)

Eyes wander quickly

The pupil is markedly constricted

Gesture signal library
Open Signal:

The palms of the hands are naturally upward

Moderate gesture amplitude (30-60cm)

Unobstructed body movements

Defensive Signals:

Crossing arms is frequent

Cover your face with your hands

Organize your clothes frequently

▍Decoding of spatial relationships
Hall’s four distance applications
Intimate distance (0-45cm):

Applicable scenarios: private conversations, moments of comfort

Entry signal: The other party actively reduces the distance > 10cm

Personal distance (45-120cm):

Applicable scenarios: daily conversation, dating interaction

Safety test: Observe the other person’s reaction when handing the item

Social Distancing (1.2-3.6m):

Applicable scenarios: first meeting, business occasions

Breakthrough Tips: Look for natural approaches (e.g. checking content on your phone)

Public Distance (>3.6m):

Applicable scenarios: speeches, performances

Conversion strategy: Connecting through items (e.g. passing items)

▍ GUIDE TO THE APPLICATION OF THE TOUCH PRINCIPLE
Time:

3-5 minutes after the conversation atmosphere peaks

The other party took the initiative to approach 3 times in a row

Occasion:

Choose a semi-private space (e.g. café corner)

Avoid premature contact in formal settings

Urgency:

Used to express support or comfort

Use with language signals

Consent:

Observe the openness of the other person’s body

Use progressive contact (e.g., touching an object first)

Harmony:

Hold contact time<3 seconds (initial)

The force is controlled at 200-400 grams

▍Actual combat drill room
Scenario simulation exercises
Scenario 1: The other party frequently looks at their phone

Identifying signals: low interest

Solution: Start a topic change or end it at the right time

Scenario 2: The other party leans forward + focuses on his eyes

Identification signal: High interest

Response: Increase self-disclosure and advance relationships

Scenario 3: The opponent crosses his arms + toes and moves outward

Identifying Signals: Defensive Status

Coping plan: Adjust the atmosphere of the conversation to reduce the feeling of oppression